The communication

A few days ago, following a discussion, I was told that one of the causes of relationship failure is bad communication.

So far, nothing to object, it is a fact, but those who moved the criticism added that it referred mainly to written communication, to the messages that, after the advent of messenger and then whatsapp, have become one of the methods more immediate and faster to communicate but also the most fallacious in his opinion.

This clarification made me smile, because I immediately thought that, having identified the problem, the solution would be easily within everyone’s reach:
“Stop writing, you have to talk and the reports will work again!”
So, I immediately ran for cover, I decided to start sending vowels.

“Sorry?… .ah you didn’t mean it like this .. ah … and how? Aaaaaah ok, you mean to speak in person … .vis a vis …. Of course, as was done before the technological progress. Okay, I try”.

A telephone call:
«Hi Laura, can we meet one of these days to have a chat?»
«Hi, let me know, I am very busy. Maybe next week.»

Months have passed and Laura’s not even a shadow. Is it possible that everyone goes out to buy cigarettes, never to return? Bah!

I would begin to no longer identify the problem, in the mode chosen for communication, because then we should go digging into the past, when messengers were used to bring news, or hawks, racing pigeons, stagecoaches, telegraph and so on saying, up to the present day, to try to understand what the secret of their success was, despite the methods and the timing.

The defect of communication consists in listening to, my friends, not in the modality.
The point is that we are no longer willing to listen, to understand the meaning of what they are saying to us, assuming that we are always on the right side and have nothing to learn.

So the failure of relationships is much deeper, just as deep is listening to ourselves.
But you know, it has always been easier to let it go than to question yourself.

Brief naive parenthesis:
«Stand still…. Stay still… .I have to tie this note to your paw, so you can go look for Laura, who got lost in some tobacconist and deliver her my message and I don’t say that I tried them all.»

“Hey come and look … what is our neighbor doing to that pigeon? Of course she is really strange.”